From strollwithoutshoes. I’m not sure the list is comprehensive, but it’s all good advice.
Focus On Your Long-Term Goals
Whether it’s dealing with a difficult colleague or moving past the ending of a relationship, getting “stuck in the moment” is something that comes quite easy to the most of us. Instead of placing what was said and done on a loop in your mind, think about what your ultimate goal is and use the “big picture” as a magnifying glass. You’ll likely navigate through your current situation with greater ease.
Think about the things you value, your goals and needs and what you consider to be respectful behavior. While we all value different things and are motivated by our own specific moral code, it’s important that we honor what lies closest to our heart. Pushing yourself to behave differently in order to “fit in” or with the hopes of finding happiness will only bring regret and sticky situations.
Those people who support you, reach out to you, show you compassion and love? They don’t have to do it, they choose to give you these gifts. That job you complain about pays your bills. That clean bill of health? A big deal. If you need a little help appreciating something, simply spend a few moments to imagine it being taken away from you right this moment.
Mr. Buechner had it right when he said that people will forget what we say and do but will always remember how we made them feel. I have also found that remaining calm and kind gets me through situations (and closer to the outcome that I want) much faster.
Be a Person of Honor
Be where you say you will be, do what you say you will do, be honest about your intentions and stay close to your values, even when no one is watching. Not only will this make life less complicated, it will keep your reputation polished.
Steer Clear of Toxic People
We all have periods when we feel depressed and defeated, but surrounding yourself with compulsive critics, procrastinators, complainers and drama kings/queens is going to do little more than pull you down, fog up your mental space, hold you back and get your name and persona associated with the negative emotions they evoke in others.
In this digital age, there are more ways to distract yourself than ever before. Sit down and plan out your day by placing yourself on a schedule. Put in some “downtime” and remember what Will Smith said, “You may be smarter and more talented, but you will not out run me.” Stay on track.
Move “Onto The Next”
Know that life is a living and breathing (and moving) thing. You don’t have to jump in and out of relationships, jobs, situations, but you do need to understand that everything will follow the times (and therefore it will twist, turn and morph). Be flexible and move with it.
Be Willing To Do The Work
Only children have an excuse to think that life will always be easy. Adults know that relationships will not always be easy, jobs will not always be secure, friendships will not always be happy, sex will not always be great and metabolisms will not always be high. Everything worth having takes work, and successful adults roll up their sleeves to do it.
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Do you know where your focus is taking you? To get to where you want to be, you must hold clear in your mind a picture of a specific target. As Stephen Covey would say, you must begin with the end in mind. If you do not have a clear picture of your target, you cannot use the power of focus to take you where you want to be.
Step one in the EASIER Method is to Envision your life as it will look once you have achieved your goal. If you can’t see a complete picture of what your life will look like, take the time to do one of two things:
1) Rewrite your goal until it’s something you can envision, or
2) Spend extra time and make a more purposeful effort during the envisioning process
Either way, you need to be able to “have a clear picture of your target”. If you don’t, you’ll be on a trip without a map, and you’ll inevitably get lost along the way…
To learn more about the EASIER Method, make sure to download my free e-book, Success! A Step-by-Step Guide on How to Achieve Your Goals and Dreams.
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